How to calm my anxious horse?

Whats your seat like? Are you up and over her or in anyway driving her? Or are you staying in a pretty neutral postition? I have had problems with horses over the years that get this way coming home because they are getting ridden right up to the tie rail and then the rider is dismounting. Big NO NO in my barn. Try stopping her and backing a few paces then going forward. Also ride her past the point where you usually get off, stop her, pat her and tell her what a beautiful wonder sweety she is (jk). Then get off her and walk her back to the tie rail. As far as bits go, until she gets over anticipating you getting off and getting to be put up, what ever bit she goes nicely in is JUST FINE!!! Although, I personally like Sheri Suurvys or Kimberwicks ~wink